Sunday, November 23, 2014

Church separate from State vs Church "versus" State

Just thinking about something someone in the ward here said (not in any official capacity or anything) and finally remembered/re-found the reference of which I was trying to think.

"4 We believe that religion is instituted of God; and that men are amenable to him, and to him only, for the exercise of it, unless their religious opinions prompt them to infringe upon the rights and liberties of others; but we do not believe that human law has a right to interfere in prescribing rules of worship to bind the consciences of men, nor dictate forms for public or private devotion; that the civil magistrate should restrain crime, but never control conscience; should punish guilt, but never suppress the freedom of the soul.
9 We do not believe it just to mingle religious influence with civil government..."
- Joseph Smith, D&C 134:4, 9

Basically, governments should protect the free exercise of ALL religions so long as laws concerning life/property are not broken. Religions should not seek to create laws based on their particular dogmas (although individual members should be engaged in the political processes of their nation as much as possible, according to their conscience and without malice towards those who disagree).

Sunday, November 2, 2014

It's been... a while...

Life, as a whole, has been going rather stupendously of late:
The beard is huge and getting styled for charity at the end of November (info and donation stuff here: http://www.gofundme.com/GSIBeardBattle)
I got the last Diancie from the local GameStop yesterday which I guess is pretty great
My girlfriend is pretty fantastic, particularly with supporting me through my own challenges.
We've also been able to read scriptures together every day for the past 2 weeks or so, which is a new thing for me but it's been really great.
And we've been marathon-watching Parks & Recreation so that's pretty stellar as well...

Don't wanna turn this into a "hey my gf is super awesome" type of post but a) she kinda is & b) it's been a big contributing factor in how well life has been going the past few months.

There are an awful lot of other things going wrong in the world, but I wanted to write something down to at least remind myself in the future that some things are going right.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Divine potential is universal

"I think if all men knew and understood who they are, and were aware of the divine source from whence they came, and of the infinite potential that is part of their inheritance, they would have feelings of kindness and kinship for each other that would change their whole way of living and bring peace on earth."
-- Joseph Fielding Smith

Monday, October 6, 2014

"No Girls Allowed!" or General Conference Priesthood Session

My thoughts are much less about tradition. I personally think that (aside from the speakers) the women's meeting should just be for women, and I'd like to see a sister speak at a PH session someday. But I don't think they should be combined (yet) because we as men (& young men in particular) in general aren't ready for it.

We have loads of research of the effects of the male gaze on women and in the LGBTQ community. Essentially, men are conditioned by society to affect the space around them in a way that establishes/secures their masculine identity; which in turn puts pressure on others (particularly women) to adapt to that presence. By keeping men out of the women's meeting, we allow our sisters one brief moment where they can be assured that no men will be asserting their socialized dominance - even if that assertion is entirely unintentional. No arms around a spouse/significant other to make single sisters feel insecure/inadequate in a church already very emphatic about families, no single guys "window shopping", no pressure from men to look, react, behave, etc in any particular way. Studies have shown that having a socialized male presence influences the behavior of women, and I believe the inverse is also true.

On the flip side - and where I'd like to do more graduate research myself because there really isn't much - there is also a change among men's behavior in the presence of women. We are less likely to express emotion, more concerned with appearances, and (having been taught by our culture this way) very easily distracted by any source of potential female attention. In my opinion, women are not barred from PH session attendance because we don't want them to crash the party; men (still speaking generally) are still so bound to social conditioning that having a place free from a majority of those hyper-masculine societal pressures liberates us.

We first need to come closer, if not fully realize, the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. Then we can shatter the glass ceiling from both sides, root out rape/objectification culture from our collective subconscious, and allow men to feel a full range of emotions without the fear of stigmatization. Until men - ESPECIALLY young men - no longer have to live in fear of being perceived as feminine (aka vulnerable, weak, sensitive, and every other trait that patriarchal society has deemed inferior), we will not be able to open ourselves to the full spiritual potential of our meetings. We need a place to feel the spirit free from those pressures, which will hopefully spill over into a realization of how EVERY meeting could be if we eliminated the pressures altogether.

Sorry if that got wordy. TLDR: Patriarchal socialization has made men prisoners of their own oppressive social structures (on top of the cavernous disparity faced by women every day). Until we get rid of those for both men and women, we all need a place where we can experience a life without the male gaze or rigid masculine "ideal"... Even if it only lasts for 2 hours. In my opinion, I think we could 1) Tell guys not to attend the women's general meeting - and encourage them to do everything in their power to facilitate attendance for the sisters in their lives, 2) have a sister speak at Priesthood sessions, and 3) work to change society so that my kids will one day not have to worry about the social pressures that make the division seem necessary/reasonable in the first place.

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Don't know if I've said this before but...

I love The Good Men Project. A lot. In fact, I'm surprised that more of this isn't just links to their articles.

Here's a great one. If nothing else, I'll just drop it here so that I can reread it later.

Monday, September 22, 2014

I should definitely be sleeping

What is this mysterious sleep schedule of which you speak? I know of no such thing...

What's keeping me up:
- Emma Watson's absolutely brilliant UN address announcing the HeForShe campaign. Seriously, if you haven't seen it, you should check it out before reading whatever nonsense I'm about to ramble off: http://youtu.be/-yopcw45WMw
- Metacognition (and thinking about metacognition, which is an Inception-esque rabbit hole in and of itself)
- I don't know if I believe in a capitol-T "The One" but rather maybe multiple "ones" corresponding with different points in life - each with their own inherent likelihood of producing varying degrees of lasting happiness/contentment. I don't know how my history of "ones" breaks down on the spectrum of just-befriended to broke-up-with to give-it-time, but I'm grateful for extenuating circumstances putting me places and what I've learned from all of the relationships of which I've been a part: platonic, failed, or otherwise... And maybe this would make more sense if it wasn't 6 in the morning, but if you're reading this then you already should have read the stream-of-consciousness warning :)
- And finally, I really have no idea how dating works in LDS culture - ESPECIALLY Provo culture (not that I have any interest in conforming to that particular batch of norms). Out of all the girls I've dated, none have ever been LDS... Some sort of mix between never really having any LDS people around to date once I started dating & not being the kind of person an LDS girl would probably want to date for a while. Either way, it's particularly odd in Provo because there seems to be all this stress of only dating someone to whom you will (or at least very likely could) end up engaged. Not that I'm a fan of break ups or that I haven't already had enough of them... Maybe I'll just draw this out at some point.

I kinda lost track of that particular cognitive train, but I guess the cliffnotes version is as follows: I'd be totally cool with the next person I date being the (lowercase) one beside whom I tiptoe into eternity, but I'd like the relationship to be free of all the pressure of Provo's dating pipeline subculture.

And now that I'm hopefully going to sleep soon, here's something completely different! This picture encapsulates how I feel the entire #NotAllMen reaction to the #YesAllWomen thing a little while back. It's funnier if you've seen Game of Thrones (and if you haven't I'd love to watch it with you and have long, intellectual conversations about the societal correlations & non-traditional means of character development). Stay nerdy, my friends.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

What I learned today: Beethoven was black.

Or at least mixed...

http://uncle-baconface.tumblr.com/post/97202338422/im-confused-about-what-beethoven-was-doing-in-the

Thank you, Tumblr, for helping me learn things and for providing another example in an already long list of history being whitewashed.

I would just post the comments but, alas, I don't know how. Sorry.